Are you so busy doing the “What nexts” that you miss the gorgeous encounters of the “Why” life? New media offers twenty four hour a day inputting into our brains. Phones rarely stop ringing, buzzing, or texting. If we are not intentional, we can easily spend our entire day allowing whatever is before us explore us and simply never consciously decide or focus on anything. Once upon a time we had interruptions at work of the telephone and meetings. Those could be scheduled, and secretaries could screen when calls went through to your office. We took mid day breaks and lunch, but for the most part, we had hour and a half shots at getting work done.
That’s not today’s world.
Today we have smart phones that beckon to us through messages, video, calls, and text throughout the twenty-four hours we all a day. Our computers often tell us of incoming messages throughout our work time. We work virtually, traditionally, and via satellite. We can watch entertainment at home, on phone, or at work. The hours are becoming universal as the tasks for work are literally carried with us where ever we go….when do we turn off working?
What makes a MORE life? Why isn’t simply scheduling time enough? In the past work was work and home was home, why isn’t that working any more? Why do most people change jobs at least four times in their career now? It’s often because they are not being emotionally fed by succeeding at a task. Too often financial goals or security goals are being met by employment, but the person has “sold out” their emotional goals. To feel safe, appreciated, cared for, approved, meaningful, are desired emotions that each individual should engage when he/she works. To have activities in life that utilize their gifts, talents, and ignite one’s passion for living is invigorating, yet so many people do not choose to engage in high value activities that produce those feelings. What is your Why? Why do you do what you do? Why does it matter to you? Why aren’t you choosing differently if your answer is “my work isn’t fulfilling to me?”
Recently I met with an old acquaintance, I asked, what do you do? His facial tone immediately changed, a somber face responded, ” I do what I need to do to keep my wife happy, my kids in “things” and I gave up the concept of doing anything that mattered to me.” My heart sank. As the conversation continued I remembered the moment that my why happened again, when my best friend shared she had cancer. Why mattered alot more to me when I realized my time is limited and my gifts and talents valuable to others. I started that day to Prioritize, Organize, and Simplify what would matter to me if my life was to end. I wanted to matter. I wanted MORE giving, MORE doing, MORE involvement with people I love, MORE time with children, MORE opportunities to grow, learn, and share. I wanted MORE than the “what” I was doing.
The exercises I went through were helpful to me in figuring out my “why” in life. Its a popular business topic, “What’s YOUR Why” but its not always as easy to figure out. The boundaries have to change. The masks of “should do’s” have to be dropped. You have to look in the mirror and ask “Are the rules and boundaries I am living by truly supportive of my values and my life?”
Very often the answer is “NO.”
Change begins the instant you decide to change. It happens when we take the time to focus our attention on the activities we are doing. Too often we simply do more of the same without ever truly considering the options. The Daily Progress Report is a direct result of my own focus on making sure that I created MORE time for high value activities, MORE appreciation for important people in my life, MORE effort to finish things that hung over me like a dead weight, MORE desire to “keep up” with the life I wanted to live, not just talk the talk.
What is your “Why” for 2012….What does your MORE life look life? I hope you’ll share yours with me here or on our facebook wall. We’re beginning a discussion that I am sure will be a continuing one, about the things that hold you back from your “Why’s” and how to facilitate change of your “Whats”.
The dogs are ready to change my “what” I’ am doing, time to get them outdoors to play a bit!
P.S. Don’t forget!!
There’s a new one just for you each day PRE-DATED!!!